Dear
italix ,
STOP! I hope you actually read that. When I posted "that's enough" earlier, I expected it to... well... stop. Alas, this is the Internet, and forcing anybody to stop in this forum isn't the most ideal solution. However, I'm sorry for the initial response I made. It was an overgeneralized response and I wasn't really focused, but it was indirectly to you after you made assumptions about his intentions (to start a drama, what?).
So I have another solution, but we'll get to that.
I don't think I'll say everything the way I want it said perfectly, but I genuinely hope you are still able to understand my perspective, especially near the end of the post.
It wasn't the complaining about failing the semi which pissed me off (you reacted like an average forum user, which is a sensible response). It was when you retaliated and then
continued to retaliate from what
Gregory (inactive) (mainly) and then several other users had posted, so let's focus on that.
In the past incidents involving you, I've been a lot more lenient to you than many of the users here. I let it slide, optimistic that you would
learn to be less uptight. Unfortunately, that wasn't really the case and
finally, finally, yes, finally, you've pushed me past the breaking point. On behalf of the NNMC community...
... I am pissed off.
I understand how
Gregory (inactive) quoting your personal messages could be unethical, but to react like that in a forum for people who enjoy the hobby of online song contests? I am extremely disappointed in you. This forum is for hobbyists who are here just for fun, not serious professionals. It wasn't a situation that needed to be taken seriously. The deal with you is that you are
too sensitive and defensive for insignificant reasons. You take everything as an attack. Yes, he quoted your personal message, but is it really necessary to exert so much energy on your keyboard to type much more than needed in a futile argument? You actually assumed he wanted to start a drama? I highly doubt he was looking for one. I saw it as just additional commentary to further a discussion. You
overreact to posts which pertain to you. It doesn't help that you
react negatively to a lot of these posts, escalating the drama when you had the initiative to just stop it right there and not let it escalate.
The quote wasn't even that sensitive. You probably are not alone in the opinion of "too few songs you would like to support" in the second semifinal. It wasn't a spoiler for a new song or votes or something potentially hurtful to others. Something like those are sensitive information in this forum. In today's case,
it was just an opinion. You're already known to have strong opinions. That phrase comes as no surprise.
Gregory (inactive) already learned his lesson and won't do it again... but will you learn your own?
When did you ask
Gregory (inactive) to keep your personal messages confidential? Of course, a personal message means it's seen exclusively between you and another user. A personal message stays private until made public by either party's will, so I suppose you shouldn't have taken confidentiality for granted. But even if that was a violation of common sense, the quote was PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE to publicize whether I liked it or not. The only thing that was revealed which may have caused your concern was that you didn't vote as ROTW in semifinal 2 because there were "too few songs you would like to support". Many people didn't vote as ROTW. I don't expect everybody, just a significant amount. Finally,
no actual votes were revealed.
Gregory (inactive) is more than smart enough to not break away from basic internet ethics. Now, if he had revealed at least part of your SF3/SF1 votes,
Gregory (inactive) would get a lecture from me, but he didn't, right? He did not make a serious offense. He isn't part of the NNMC Council for nothing. I trust him.
I was a witness to the personal messages exchanged between you and
Gregory (inactive) . I won't reveal the specific contents (for your sanity), but I'm just... appalled. If I could spill the beans, I would have so much more to say, but I've already spent two hours on this post. I understand being defensive, but what I read was being defensive overboard. That was the final nail in the coffin for me.
And here's the point I want to emphasize the most. Please read.
Why do you subject yourself to spending hours on end typing up these lengthy, almost pretentious posts/messages to prove your point? It's concerning. You can't let your haters get to you, so please, stop worrying about them. I don't know how I can handle seeing you continue being so defensive not only in this edition, but in future editions to come. If I could make an assumption, I feel that this is taking a toll in your personal life, and I don't want this not-so-serious contest I made for everyone to have fun to negatively affect anyone in a significant way.
if you take online contests
that serious then I'm concerned for you, because there's no reason to make so many posts in such a serious tone just because you dislike the results. Remember that this forum was made for fun so don't take it like it's a matter of life and death.
At the beginning, I said we were going to have a solution, so here it is...
So italix ...
- to make your life easier
- to put you out of your misery
- to improve your sanity
- to let go of your problems associated with NNMC
- to forget about this ASAP
Effective immediately, italix will be banned from participating in the NowNewMusic Contest. Not just this edition, but the contest as a whole. A possibility to return is considered, but that is up to the decision of the NNMC Council.
It is my sincere pleasure to welcome back ✨ Forrest ✨ to NNMC after being absent for an edition and a half. She returns to her status as the HoD of Italy effective immediately. I already talked to her in private about the decision. The Italian votes in this edition's Grand Final will be given by her. This is in conclusion to the pre-arranged agreement between her and italix in regards of using Italy.
italix , this is for your own good. This is for the NNMC community's best interest. I was able to handle the multiple dramas which involved you since last year, but it's been a year, and I've had enough. If you can't put up with everybody's bullshit for editions past, present, and future, you're not fit to participate in this contest any longer. With this ban, at least you won't be complaining about any more minor fails or feel like you're being attacked.
Perhaps you may see this as another attack on you, but I feel this is the most merciful solution I can provide.
I hope I've said enough.
Sincerely,
MaRtIn
The Grand Final will be posted within a few hours.