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Post by nick on Aug 6, 2015 3:01:40 GMT 1
I would say that I'm asexual, but also heterosexual, I'm attracted to girls but not sexually, no one knows because I don't know who I should tell, I know I will tell at some point, especially because I know of people who think I'm gay, so I'll have to correct them soon, just a question of who to tell. Start with friends, or at least people who you think will be understanding and accepting. It's definitely a weird situation to be in (I know from experience q:), but it's survivable. How do you think people will react? |
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Post by ha11d0r99 on Aug 6, 2015 3:34:01 GMT 1
I would say that I'm asexual, but also heterosexual, I'm attracted to girls but not sexually, no one knows because I don't know who I should tell, I know I will tell at some point, especially because I know of people who think I'm gay, so I'll have to correct them soon, just a question of who to tell. Start with friends, or at least people who you think will be understanding and accepting. It's definitely a weird situation to be in (I know from experience q:), but it's survivable. How do you think people will react? Some I know won't understand so I'm saving them for last, others don't care I think, but I'm mostly afraid of if the first time coming out will be to someone who won't get it and might lose touch with me, one of my friends is a supporter of equality but I don't know if I should tell her since I've known her for a lesser time than other friends. I don't know who would accept it and understand, so I'm not sure, the best bet I think is the equality supporter, but I've read that even gay people have thought that Asexuality was weird and wrong, so I'm not sure if she would react how I hope she would... |
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Post by nick on Aug 6, 2015 4:22:35 GMT 1
Start with friends, or at least people who you think will be understanding and accepting. It's definitely a weird situation to be in (I know from experience q:), but it's survivable. How do you think people will react? Some I know won't understand so I'm saving them for last, others don't care I think, but I'm mostly afraid of if the first time coming out will be to someone who won't get it and might lose touch with me, one of my friends is a supporter of equality but I don't know if I should tell her since I've known her for a lesser time than other friends. I don't know who would accept it and understand, so I'm not sure, the best bet I think is the equality supporter, but I've read that even gay people have thought that Asexuality was weird and wrong, so I'm not sure if she would react how I hope she would... Yeah, it's kinda scary. But posting on here, even if it's minor, is pretty significant, so you've got that going for you. For me, at least, it's easier to talk about things like this with people I don't really know all too well (the first person I came out to was someone I had known for a month lol), so maybe that friend is your best option, especially since you know she's accepting? And when I had to tell people I was asexual (or at least, asexual-leaning), some people didn't get it, both gay and straight. But for every person that doesn't understand, there'll be one or two who do, so don't worry too too much about that.  |
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Post by ha11d0r99 on Aug 6, 2015 4:26:45 GMT 1
Some I know won't understand so I'm saving them for last, others don't care I think, but I'm mostly afraid of if the first time coming out will be to someone who won't get it and might lose touch with me, one of my friends is a supporter of equality but I don't know if I should tell her since I've known her for a lesser time than other friends. I don't know who would accept it and understand, so I'm not sure, the best bet I think is the equality supporter, but I've read that even gay people have thought that Asexuality was weird and wrong, so I'm not sure if she would react how I hope she would... Yeah, it's kinda scary. But posting on here, even if it's minor, is pretty significant, so you've got that going for you. For me, at least, it's easier to talk about things like this with people I don't really know all too well (the first person I came out to was someone I had known for a month lol), so maybe that friend is your best option, especially since you know she's accepting? And when I had to tell people I was asexual (or at least, asexual-leaning), some people didn't get it, both gay and straight. But for every person that doesn't understand, there'll be one or two who do, so don't worry too too much about that. Thank you I feel like I needed that , and I guess you're right about the part of just saying that I'm asexual on the forum, well, hopefully my friend will be accepting... |
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Post by nick on Aug 6, 2015 4:31:35 GMT 1
Yeah, it's kinda scary. But posting on here, even if it's minor, is pretty significant, so you've got that going for you. For me, at least, it's easier to talk about things like this with people I don't really know all too well (the first person I came out to was someone I had known for a month lol), so maybe that friend is your best option, especially since you know she's accepting? And when I had to tell people I was asexual (or at least, asexual-leaning), some people didn't get it, both gay and straight. But for every person that doesn't understand, there'll be one or two who do, so don't worry too too much about that. Thank you I feel like I needed that , and I guess you're right about the part of just saying that I'm asexual on the forum, well, hopefully my friend will be accepting... No problem and congrats! Even if my coming out wasn't that smooth, it did help me let go of a lot of problems I'd been having. If you're having any, hopefully it has the same effect for you. Good luck.  |
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Post by Aleks Džehverović on Sept 1, 2015 23:05:39 GMT 1
Well everybody already knew that I am gay but anyways. Last week I was at a festival and everybody that I talked to, didn't expect it  It's so strange because when I was in highschool I didn't completely knew it myself and I was bullied because I "looked" and acted gay. But know that I am out of the closet for a few years, people don't expect it anymore. It can be because I feel more confident now that earlier. But some people are really shocked when they hear I am gay, because they don't expect it It was kinda funny. Also funny is that, I once had a girlfriend, that was the only girl I ever kissed. But this year, I kissed two of my Girlie friends, but it still doesn't do anything to me It so weird that you just can kiss a girl now, because they want to know how gay-men kiss. And at the festival I kissed my first straight-guy, so weird tho, that he just suddenly kissed me Okay there was some alcohol involved but still. It feels weird to kiss a guy that is not gay at all. So I don't know why I shared this, but I just did it.  Oh and is it strange that I still can get along with my ex-boyfriend? We've been together for 2,5 years. Broke up, but can get along good. Not like first, but good. We have shared friends tho, so it is needed to get along It's almost a year ago now, I firstly thought I couldn't live without a relationship, and expected to have a new boyfriend soon after, but I am still single and really happy I am. But sometimes I really have the feeling that I need one  and some moments I have not. |
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Post by Tufkai on Sept 10, 2015 20:50:17 GMT 1
I came across the meme recently, and it really angered me. How do people come to be this stupid!?   |
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Post by Julian on Sept 10, 2015 21:12:26 GMT 1
Well not all gays (let's say nearly nobody) act like this ^. And gender roles =/= normal family
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Post by Tufkai on Sept 10, 2015 21:31:13 GMT 1
Well not all gays (let's say nearly nobody) act like this ^. And gender roles =/= normal family Er...thanks for telling me... (Of course I know that. Did you see what I wrote at the top?) |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 10, 2015 21:41:16 GMT 1
lol I hate it when someone posts a thing and a simple reply covering all the post contains gets more likes
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It's so strange because when I was in highschool I didn't completely knew it myself and I was bullied because I "looked" and acted gay. But know that I am out of the closet for a few years, people don't expect it anymore. It can be because I feel more confident now that earlier. But some people are really shocked when they hear I am gay, because they don't expect it 
