Eke
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Post by Eke on Jan 15, 2017 16:48:20 GMT 1
But as you grow older things may change, you learn about yourself, your do's and don'ts. And when you do, they change again. It's just how it is. I reckon you're still young and after some relationships (if that's what you want) you should get a better picture of the situation. Yeah, that's why I'm not worried about it too much and can focus on other things  I'll just see what my future brings because I still have a lot ahead of me, I probably just haven't found the right person yet, who knows. |
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Post by MG on Jan 18, 2017 0:39:24 GMT 1
I don't know if this is the right topic for it, but I've finally managed to come out to my 2 closest friends I have irl (both girls tho). I told one in summer, because she is in  Moldova and we went out often back then. Another one studies in another city in  Romania and we don't have the chance to meet often, but I wanted to tell her personally too, so I've waited for the moment when we managed to meet and I just did it (with the help of my another one  ). They both were so supportive (I guess because girls don't usually have a problem with it, and it's nice to have someone who shares same interests with you and talk about similar topics idk) and I don't know I just feel like we became closer than before. We know each other for around 4-5 years (since high school to be more exact), and I really hope we will stay besties for long time. The irony is that one of these girls used to be my "kind-of-crush" in high school but that was before i discovered myself or something... The bad thing is that we are living in different cities at the moment but I guess it shouldn't be a problem if we really love each other. Also I came across the "gay community" here in Romania, because I recently started to be more "open" and I've found some really nice people over here. I can't call them friends yet (as it's not been long time since we know each other), but I hope with time it will be possible. I still don't think it matters what sexuality your friends are but it's still good having someone with same interests as you imo, and who is not far away. I guess my only problem is my introverty but I am working on changing it. No surprise that you can almost always see me going out every week  |
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Post by Rick on Jan 18, 2017 14:04:34 GMT 1
I don't know if this is the right topic for it, but I've finally managed to come out to my 2 closest friends I have irl (both girls tho). I told one in summer, because she is in Moldova and we went out often back then. Another one studies in another city in Romania and we don't have the chance to meet often, but I wanted to tell her personally too, so I've waited for the moment when we managed to meet and I just did it (with the help of my another one ). They both were so supportive (I guess because girls don't usually have a problem with it, and it's nice to have someone who shares same interests with you and talk about similar topics idk) and I don't know I just feel like we became closer than before. We know each other for around 4-5 years (since high school to be more exact), and I really hope we will stay besties for long time. The irony is that one of these girls used to be my "kind-of-crush" in high school but that was before i discovered myself or something... The bad thing is that we are living in different cities at the moment but I guess it shouldn't be a problem if we really love each other. Also I came across the "gay community" here in Romania, because I recently started to be more "open" and I've found some really nice people over here. I can't call them friends yet (as it's not been long time since we know each other), but I hope with time it will be possible. I still don't think it matters what sexuality your friends are but it's still good having someone with same interests as you imo, and who is not far away. I guess my only problem is my introverty but I am working on changing it. No surprise that you can almost always see me going out every week I've really been wondering about LGBT rights (or simply people's conception about it) in south-eastern Europe recently,especially  Romania.. like, how is the situation there? |
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Post by MG on Jan 18, 2017 14:13:32 GMT 1
I don't know if this is the right topic for it, but I've finally managed to come out to my 2 closest friends I have irl (both girls tho). I told one in summer, because she is in Moldova and we went out often back then. Another one studies in another city in Romania and we don't have the chance to meet often, but I wanted to tell her personally too, so I've waited for the moment when we managed to meet and I just did it (with the help of my another one ). They both were so supportive (I guess because girls don't usually have a problem with it, and it's nice to have someone who shares same interests with you and talk about similar topics idk) and I don't know I just feel like we became closer than before. We know each other for around 4-5 years (since high school to be more exact), and I really hope we will stay besties for long time. The irony is that one of these girls used to be my "kind-of-crush" in high school but that was before i discovered myself or something... The bad thing is that we are living in different cities at the moment but I guess it shouldn't be a problem if we really love each other. Also I came across the "gay community" here in Romania, because I recently started to be more "open" and I've found some really nice people over here. I can't call them friends yet (as it's not been long time since we know each other), but I hope with time it will be possible. I still don't think it matters what sexuality your friends are but it's still good having someone with same interests as you imo, and who is not far away. I guess my only problem is my introverty but I am working on changing it. No surprise that you can almost always see me going out every week I've really been wondering about LGBT rights (or simply people's conception about it) in south-eastern Europe recently,especially Romania.. like, how is the situation there? It's not that bad as it seems to be. I mean as long as you're not going on the street and being open about it it's totally fine. Some of people who already know this situation told me that homosexuality was banned in Romania before they joined EU, but it's not considered as "illegal" anymore now. I never heard anyone complaining about it anyway, but once again that's because people are not being open in public about it. I even know some gay couples who live together for years and they don't have problems with family and stuffs. From my "experience" so far, people don't really seem to care about it anyway. But obviously there is homophobia everywhere, that's why many people are still being "on the closet", for obvious reasons. But if we compare Romania with Moldova, then Moldova is urgh... there is a lot of anti-homosexuality propaganda, especially with religion being involved in this. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2017 12:23:12 GMT 1
I guess my only problem is my introverty but I am working on changing it. Off topic but don't see introversion as something to "get rid off". It's not an illness, and you should be proud to be like that. It's like saying "Ugh, my only problem is my gayness, I should change that".  |
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Post by MG on Jan 28, 2017 14:01:29 GMT 1
I guess my only problem is my introverty but I am working on changing it. Off topic but don't see introversion as something to "get rid off". It's not an illness, and you should be proud to be like that. It's like saying "Ugh, my only problem is my gayness, I should change that". yeah but I feel like people might think I am boring if I keep being like that idk |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 20:53:32 GMT 1
In this post, I use the words "sexuality" and "romantic orientation" interchangeably.
The concept of libido is a weird one. It is usually confused to be sexuality itself, but it is not in any way for some.
So is the way you try forming your jokes when you communicate with other people around you.
Or the way you appear to everyone else, the way you look.
Heck, even the way people desire you.
Sexuality does not come in black or white colours, that's what I have had to learn up until this point.
You don't really notice it until you're way into deep, thinking about what the fuck you actually are.
It happens when you have one of those weird nights, trying to figure out ...
"Why aren't you in a relationship yet? You are supposed to be."
"You know you can do it. Virginity is not that much of a deal."
"Change your attitude, everyone knows you are gay. Don't tell yourself otherwise."
I think everyone at this point just assumes or strictly believes I am homosexual or something else.
While this may be obvious to most, I do struggle with other people trying to reduce me to something
that I just.. do not feel. Homosexuality is not about acting feminine, telling jokes about dick sizes
or sticking your tongue inside a guy's throat. It's about attraction to sex with a male person.
I DON'T FEEL THAT.
I didn't choose being who I am. More than anyone else, I'd like to have fun kissing, fooling around
with others, having the kinky feelings of others with anyone, but that's not an option for me.
Sex and all around it is great, it really is. I'm happy for everyone feeling the attraction
surrounding it. As for me, I can not connect to it as much as others. If I ever was to
engage in a relationship with a person of trust, I'd still pull it off and engage in the
act simply because in love, you do sacrifices for the other. Possibly, the attraction would
slowly start to show - but that is all just very speculative.
Asexual is not a strict label, it's an experience. You feel different from others,
but the way you ought to cope with it strengthens you for live. |
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Post by MG on Apr 21, 2017 23:29:07 GMT 1
All these sexualities give me headache if I'd try to understand each of them properly..  |
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Post by fabbi on Apr 22, 2017 8:14:28 GMT 1
All these sexualities give me headache if I'd try to understand each of them properly.. Same. That's why I'm not even trying. I read them once, forgot them right away and in the end the only ones I could explain are homo, hetero, bi and a. |
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Post by ~Rethnas~ on Jul 22, 2017 0:18:13 GMT 1
So first of all I know it is not a big surprise to read this right now because well I know I am certainly not the only one here but I am gay !  I waited so long to tell everyone here and in my private life because well I was not comfortable with it for a long time and I really thought it would pass (guess I was wrong lmao) But oh well I almost told all of my best friends and my family now and I can say I did not receive any bad comment or reaction yet wich I am so gratefull for  So yeah it was time I came out here too  |
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