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Post by Aliya on May 18, 2018 19:11:23 GMT 1
I'm pretty much bisexual, to begin with. But bisexual demiromantic.
In a world where many people seem to get online relationships so easily through some clicks and chats, I'm basically incapable to do what a lot of girls around me seem to do: swoon over them or fall in love at first sight.
Those two terms are not in my vocabulary, nor they'll ever be.
So basically it's tremendously hard for me to fall in love with anyone unless I know that person very well. And that can take months or even years. Most of my relationships were mainly chosen due to this attribute, not that I'm picky or anything, but I don't want to be affiliated with some sort of a player or a guy which sleeps with all the girls. Plus, I'm generally a very introverted person, which makes it even difficult for me to do it, as literally all the people I know are extroverted, party makers, and adore attention.
Meanwhile, there's me in my own tiny bubble, wanting to go home and simply have my own moment of silence.
So you can imagine how's my relationship life.
I've had 3 relationships overall, and with 2 of my exes I'm pretty much still good friends up untill this day, thing that usually doesn't happen often with many people, and I don't want to talk about that last one because that girlie cheated on me and that was that, she ended up with tea spilt over and a whole bunch of hopes gone.
For my fellow forumers over here, embrace yourself. After all, quoting: "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?" The world is in a major development and this topic is pretty much taboo (...no pun intended, I guess?) even to these days, but among them all, accept, love and embrace yourself and your sexuality. You can't dictate what your heart wants or desires.
You're loved, respected and always welcomed. I'm proud of you and wish you the best in the world, even if you feel insecure about everything happening, so keep on going and don't look back. โฅ
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Post by George J. on Jun 3, 2018 21:39:54 GMT 1
I'm really scared of saying this, but I have been lying to you guys and mostly myself for all these years... Even though my family and friends don't know anything yet, I feel like the forums is probably the best place where I can start to tell people that yeah, I'm gay. For all these years I just didn't feel to tell anyone because thinking that I was gay didn't make me happy and in a deep end I did feel that I wasn't, but this is the point where I've just learnt that I'd rather accept myself the way I am than trying to hide who I am and modify myself. Despite coming out, I'd prefer if you don't not to talk too much about this since it's a very fragile subject for me... Still, coming out in here is definitely going to make me feel relieved and will most likely boost me to do the same thing in my real life.  Okay so before this post was made here though this post was a big. Fat... LIE  I'm not gay or bi, I'm still straight, but in a game of Truth or Dare, dearest forumer Aless dared me to 'come out' nnn This was a nice dare I have to say, but (un)fortunately I am not gay.  Thanks again and ciao x |
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Post by Dylan on Jun 3, 2018 21:59:36 GMT 1
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Post by Dimitris on Jun 3, 2018 22:09:17 GMT 1
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2018 22:18:04 GMT 1
 I'm honestly, disgusted. Not even exaggerated. |
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Post by Apostolis on Jun 3, 2018 23:04:25 GMT 1
I never made a similar post and I never officially came out to the forum. However, this one will be a real one I'm pretty much homosexual, to begin with. But homosexual aromantic. It took me nearly 4 years to come out to my self as Homosexual and I found recently that I'm also aromantic (lack of romantic attraction towards anyone if anyone doesn't know yet). It feels slightly weird sometimes. It's just really hard knowing that you are just too weak to come out to anyone around you, I can hardly trust people or even connect with them, somehow. I mean being so introvert and shy might have an impact as well on all of these so yeah, can't really help with that. This is a post I wanted to do for a long time but I just feel like now it's the right time to do so, a big amount of the forumers might know it already and it feels really nice being supported by a whole community, even if it's just on the internet. It's just really unfair that we have to fight for us, our rights and for our sexuality, it's really sad that people think that being heterosexual is the only way. ฮf people could only embrace difference, would be beyond amazing. I'm happy that I'm able to accept myself just the way I am, my sexuality is a part of me and being true to myself is a priority. For my fellow forumers out there, be whoever the fuck you want and don't be scared of showing your true self, it's all about you anyway. Me and every other OVSC-er (I hope so) will always be here to support everyone that has/had problems and your petty ass knows already so don't be afraid to show up, we're definitely more than just a forum. |
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Post by Wysteria on Jun 3, 2018 23:59:55 GMT 1
ok, after apo I go I officially come out as bisexual. ik all these years I actually gone through phases am I bisexual or straight. Main reason for that is cause I was scared. I mean I couldn't come out to myself as knowing people around me would start judging me if I start thinking I am one(if I actually start acting a bit gay or idk, I just thought if I tell myself I am straight, I will be one but it isn't how it works).I mean this just proves sexuality is not a choice and people can't escape it I guess. It is not I am not proud of myself(which in many ways I am not but that is another story). I am afraid to be judged negatively by people so I always tried(even too hard) to be liked. Since my birth I always had problems both physically and mentally. I had a hard time just getting used to friends and anxiety of people. I am too emotional and many bad things happened so I always do my best not to go to a state of miss comfort and where I will start cry and get myself into lots of pressure. Felt like I am always late in progress compares to others both in mature and life. I never did any sport, go outside often so recently I put myself into more pressure to have social life even tho I am kinda introvert. This year has been such a traumatic experience when I discovered no one in my class, sees me as a normal person and as a person who they think can be their friend rather then person they can make fun of. In the end I stopped carrying about all this and decided to be myself and for the start I will actually come out as a bisexual. Idk if I am more into woman or male atm but time will decide I guess. I am not really sure at anything life related atm. I just think that people who discriminate other people based on not just sexuality also mental state,ethnic,race,gender are 1 big assholes who doesn't deserve nothing in life. ik your life is shit but don't make other people feel the same please. I think if you are ever feel in the same situation as me and try to be friends with people who don't see a good side of you, just let em go. They will most likely fail in life that way. Be your own hero and be yourself is what I want to say here. Also don't let anyone treat you as shit(especially you, yourself). True Friends are one who treat you no matter who you are, keep that in mind. Peace
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Post by nijat on Jun 6, 2018 21:04:59 GMT 1
Well, although I possess an account in this forum about more than 4 years, I have never been to this part of it and just discovered that there are so many discussion threads unrelated to song contests.  Of course, I could only read a small part of the whole conversations around, but I feel like this thread has been a great opportunity for manifold people. Sexuality constitutes a part of our private lives, but there are a lot of people out there in need of sharing his/her experiences/feelings and can't. Therefore, I am glad to see how heaps of people here demonstrate empathy towards each other whereas in the real life some of non-heterosexual people faced discrimination. Obviously, it's up to each of individuals to/not to share his/her stories, but there is a bright side of this thread in that regard, as well. (Maybe you have discussed this matter way long ago, but as I am a new discussant in this thread, I felt I needed to point this aspect out  ) |
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Post by ROBERT ๐ on Jun 7, 2018 2:59:53 GMT 1
So, it's been slow-paced since I revealed my massive secret of being bisexual to the world of me actually doing anything, but today after I became one of the other many people to sign up to grindr and tinder...
I've literally been spending the whole day chatting with a guy who was a match on tinder, and he's been so lovely and warm-hearted. Immediately after like 20 minutes, he added me on FaceBook and we've been chatting on Messenger.
He kept calling me so many beautfiul names, giving me so many compliments and obviously I responded and it just feels so amazing to actually do something like that and feel "out of the dark" for a change.
A lot of you know that I can sometimes be a nuisance - especially forum chat - but that's all down the chemicals in my head and how I'm naturally being responsive to the world - which I can't control. But it changes depending on my mood or what's happening.
Right now, I'm probably in the most lightest of places I could imagine since falling back into a state of darkness, depression and miserableness and its took me since 2015 to make that journey and 'see the light' but most importantly, its taken me from being 13/14 to 26 years-old to actually have the exciting feeling to talk to someone, to tell someone a compliment, to chat about shit, to just do something I never could as a teenager given the circumstance of what happened to my sister and that I had to care for her basically every night until she died.
I usually have only ever been called cute, so cute, really cute, perfect by my mother or grandma or people who are friends of the family. But never by someone that met in real life or who I've met on a dating app but has made me feel so special, warm, fuzzy and smiling away.
He actually said like " youโve turned more awesome" and "are you even human?" when I said that I liked Dr Who too ^^.
We've been talking a lot too about things that I used to be calling "a sin" to people on forum chat, like porn etc.
Even if we're not the perfect match, I've at least seemed to have made a friend which is an awesome thing.
The piรจce de rรฉsistance was when he asked me to send a photo of myself. I was worrying that I was ugly, in my pyjamas, I'm fat af. Sent it.
His reponse "you're perfect as you are" :'3
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