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Post by Sel on Dec 26, 2018 16:40:51 GMT 1
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Post by Ｊａｋｕｂ on Dec 26, 2018 16:48:20 GMT 1
I'd be happy if I won an award, even drama queen
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Post by italix on Dec 26, 2018 17:08:06 GMT 1
This is not the only community I joined, far from it, but this is the only one where I'm not accepted. But now, I don't really care of being accepted by people who consider dramas as jokes because our opinions at this subject are irrevocably different. I prefer investing more time in communities where I feel good and less in this one. Personally I don't consider dramas to be jokes if they end up on a personal level. I just think that in your case most dramas were the result of your own behavior and not of external influences and even after months you still refuse to see the reality which makes me concerned. If you don't think you have a place here then so be it but you basically pushed the whole forum away and ended up blaming everyone but yourself for it. Sure, it's not 100% your fault, some people, including myself, are also partly to blame for some of the discussions we had but that doesn't change the fact that your own behavior and your own state of mind caused the situation we are in now and if you continue to not realize that, I believe you'll only continue to make things harder for yourself, probably not just in this specific forum. But anyway, as you said so nicely, I prefer investing my time in things that make me feel good and that does not include trying to wake someone up who doesn't want to be woken up. All I can say is that - in your own interest - you might want to look back at the past and carefully think about your own role in those dramas if you want a better future in communities like this. As I said, it is not a one way street. As I already explained in my post that was censored, I have a rule: fighting against ideas, never persons. I infringed this rule in extremely rare cases, and did it once on this forum, when I counter-attacked after you ordered me to leave the forum, because, in my opinion, it was by far the strongest attack I ever received on this forum. I'm not proud of this useless discussion - as you I suppose. I have nothing else to add about that. As you know, I paid an extremely high price for that, but at least this extremely painful experience helped me to find out that the moderators and the admins would never try to understand my point of view. But at least, I was expecting for a neutral attitude from them so these awards, created by an admin, woke up an extreme feeling of injustice that will probably never disappear after that. About blaming everybody, hopefully, I do have supports in this community - they are real, even if these people prefer to speak in private messages than in public, and I understand that - and for them I will stay, elsewhere I would already have gone for a while. |
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Post by fabbi on Dec 26, 2018 17:57:52 GMT 1
Congrats to the winners  (although quite a few are pretty obvious lol) |
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Post by manos on Dec 26, 2018 18:01:59 GMT 1
and then you ask why you were voted as the biggest drama queen of the year  just accept your award and go sis, this ain't a place to solve your problems, go to a therapist instead it's like some of y'all are in this forum just to cause drama, it's getting exhausting at some point  |
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Post by Argüello on Dec 26, 2018 18:31:36 GMT 1
Thanks for the nomination, Amazing idea from Daniel and want to also Thanks for receiving me in this community  |
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Post by MG on Dec 26, 2018 18:41:13 GMT 1
As a runner-up I’d gladly take the award instead of you, so you can pass it to me. At least i’d get something. P.S congratulations to the winners. I hope that next year this is going to improve and that more people can be implied in nominating. |
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Post by Wysteria on Dec 26, 2018 19:45:05 GMT 1
Personally I don't consider dramas to be jokes if they end up on a personal level. I just think that in your case most dramas were the result of your own behavior and not of external influences and even after months you still refuse to see the reality which makes me concerned. If you don't think you have a place here then so be it but you basically pushed the whole forum away and ended up blaming everyone but yourself for it. Sure, it's not 100% your fault, some people, including myself, are also partly to blame for some of the discussions we had but that doesn't change the fact that your own behavior and your own state of mind caused the situation we are in now and if you continue to not realize that, I believe you'll only continue to make things harder for yourself, probably not just in this specific forum. But anyway, as you said so nicely, I prefer investing my time in things that make me feel good and that does not include trying to wake someone up who doesn't want to be woken up. All I can say is that - in your own interest - you might want to look back at the past and carefully think about your own role in those dramas if you want a better future in communities like this. As I said, it is not a one way street. As I already explained in my post that was censored, I have a rule: fighting against ideas, never persons. I infringed this rule in extremely rare cases, and did it once on this forum, when I counter-attacked after you ordered me to leave the forum, because, in my opinion, it was by far the strongest attack I ever received on this forum. I'm not proud of this useless discussion - as you I suppose. I have nothing else to add about that. As you know, I paid an extremely high price for that, but at least this extremely painful experience helped me to find out that the moderators and the admins would never try to understand my point of view. But at least, I was expecting for a neutral attitude from them so these awards, created by an admin, woke up an extreme feeling of injustice that will probably never disappear after that. About blaming everybody, hopefully, I do have supports in this community - they are real, even if these people prefer to speak in private messages than in public, and I understand that - and for them I will stay, elsewhere I would already have gone for a while. I mean you won based on the voting of 83 voters for the drama queen award. If you still think you are right and others are wrong then lol. Tbh you only caused dramas on this forum and nothing more. You were banned from nnmc for a reason and imo it shows that you haven't changed still so decision of NNMC Council (that I am part on now) has been right. If you think people are biased against you especially Daniel who shouldn't get all the blame, not even at all when people agreed that you are indeed a drama queen and thus you are nominated and won the award in the end by voting of the WHOLE forum than you are just arrogant. You call for the injustice when in reality only justice has been served on you on this forum. If you gonna keep being arrogant and destroy the community of this forum over and over again then you can leave the forum for all I care. |
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Post by Blandine on Dec 26, 2018 19:48:38 GMT 1
this extremely painful experience helped me to find out that the moderators and the admins would never try to understand my point of view. Alors là, non, je ne peux pas te laisser dire ça... parce que c'est complètement faux. J'ai essayé à maintes et maintes reprises de me mettre à ta place et de comprendre ton point de vue, et j'ai même parfois été d'accord avec certains de tes raisonnements. Et je sais qu'il en est de même pour mes collègues les autres modérateurs. Mais à un moment donné, toi aussi tu aurais dû faire de même en essayant de comprendre les réactions des autres face à ton comportement. J'ai toujours essayé de répondre à tes messages à longueur incommensurable du mieux possible, et j'ai même essayé d'accéder à tes demandes auprès des autres. Mais, par ailleurs, je t'ai aussi conseillé de nombreuses fois (en vain) avant tout pour ton bien mais aussi pour le bien de tous, de lâcher du leste, de te focaliser seulement sur l'aspect musical de ce forum, et surtout de prendre du recul sur ces différends ( auxquels tu accordes une importance totalement démesurée en en parlant comme s'il s'agissait de guerres) avec des personnes qui ne restent qu'issues d'une communauté en ligne. Mais, je me suis heurtée à un vrai mur... Non seulement tu n'as jamais suivi mes conseils, mais en plus, tu as carrément refusé de lire mon dernier message privé, tout ça parce que je n'étais pas d'accord avec toi, ce qui prouve bien que tu n'es absolument pas apte à te remettre en question. Tant que ça sera le cas, ta situation sur le forum ne pourra pas avancer et les gens ne pourront pas changer d'opinion à ton égard. Je pense donc que ta décision de minimiser ton activité sur le forum ne peut qu'être bénéfique pour toi, car comme cela a été dit, il vaut mieux dépenser du temps et de l'énergie sur des choses qui ne te sont pas néfastes. Bonne soirée.  sorry for french  And thank you again Daniel for creating those awards, it was really exciting and so much fun |
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